Deal Breakers


One of the big differences between courtship and betrothal as we teach it here is our view toward ‘failed’ courtships. The advocates for courtship would like to have us believe that the failure of a courtship process to reach marriage, or even the failure of an individual who believes in courtship to get married, is not a ‘failure’ of courtship but a success. A ‘feature’, as Doug Wilson tells us, not a ‘bug’.

... Read More

Courtship: Awed or Flawed?


The recent flurry of articles is an indication that the church is recognizing that there is a problem with the way we are getting our children married. And, being Christ’s church they know, or at least should know, and definitely will know, that the solution to all of their problems is found in Scripture. We went there for homeschooling, for family integration, for full quiver… now we just have to be willing to go there for the issue of the path to marriage.

... Read More

A Leap of Logic and other issues

leap 2

Let us remember the basic issue that we are discussing. That Doug Wilson called multiple rejections of men seeking wives a good thing. He called them a ‘feature not a bug’. For each of the several young men that came for his daughter he patted them on the back and sent them on their way with ‘be warmed and filled (but not with my daughter).’

... Read More

Begging the Circular Question


One of the things I love about the courtship process is that the success or failure of a courtship is not and cannot be judged by whether or not it results in marriage.  A successful courtship is one which results in all parties concerned being able to move forward in singleness or in matrimony confident … Read More

People Didn’t Date in Bible Times


People didn’t date in biblical times. Dating as a socially accepted means of finding a mate has been around for less than a century. Before that, strict courtship rituals governed the path to marriage. Whom you married wasn’t even up to you most of the time. Falling in love before you got married or engaged is a twentieth-century concept.

... Read More

Titus 2 vs Prov 31


Some have claimed that Proverbs 31 contradicts Titus 2. That the ideal wife in Titus 2 is a very, very different woman than the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. Nothing could be further from the truth.

... Read More

Facing Hard Issues: Binding the Conscience


God alone is Lord of the conscience.” To bind the consciences of believers on the teaching of Scripture is to recognize and extend Christ’s Lordship. But to do so only on the basis of human wisdom or preference is to usurp his rule….

... Read More

Facing Hard Issues: Three responses


Our response to difficult issues facing the church must not be silence, it must not be some trite and trivial answer, and it must not be to try to silence those who raise the issue. We believe, and teach, that the church must be present for duty in discussing, and dealing with, the various issues that arise in our day. Be that betrothal, polygamy, divorce, or any other modern issue the discussion should not, must not, just be swept under the table. It must be brought out, looked at, discussed, prayed over, and, in the end, a course of action must be pursued consistent with Scripture.

... Read More

Invisible Goals


Psalm 119:9-12 BETH. Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me not wander from thy commandments. Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee. Blessed art thou, O LORD: … Read More


Why 1 Corinthians 7 Is the WORST Passage to Defend “Singleness” in the Church

priest celibacy

The seventh chapter of Paul’s First Epistle to the Church in Corinth is regarded by many to be the quintessential teaching on the who’s and what’s and when’s of marriage, certainly of the New Testament, if not the Bible as a whole. In a rare situation, Christians and non-believers alike seem to agree upon what … Read More


Get every new post delivered to your Inbox

Join other followers